When “Want” Becomes “Must,” Every Hurdle Shrinks
Posted by LaQuan Henley on February 17, 2025 at 5:00 AM
In a mountainous region, one tribe lived at the peak, and another lived at the base. A day came when people from above took a little girl from the lower group. The men of the lower tribe tried to rescue her, but the climb was too difficult. They struggled for days and even considered giving up. That was when the child’s mother showed up, walking down the slopes with her little one in her arms. The men asked how she managed such a feat when they failed. Her short reply was that it was her child. That single reason held all the power she needed to accomplish what looked impossible at first.
You can look at this as a lesson in the difference between wanting something and feeling you must have it. When the men tried, they may have hoped for success but didn’t carry the same drive. They saw the task as insurmountable. The mother, on the other hand, felt nothing else mattered more than saving her child. With that kind of urgency, she found a route and pushed beyond every barrier. The contrast reveals how effort takes on a different tone once you shift your perspective. If you settle for wanting, you might only tiptoe toward your aim. If you decide it’s a necessity, your entire approach shifts.
Think of any moment in your life when you said you wanted a certain outcome. Maybe you wanted to get fit, switch careers, or build a new skill. You might have worked on it for a while, but your urgency might have faded as new events stole your focus. That is normal when the stakes feel low. When it’s all about preference, it’s easy to pull back at the first sign of friction. You might tell yourself you tried, but deep down, you know you didn’t treat it as a must. It stayed in the land of wishful thinking.
Consider the times you felt you had no choice except to follow through. Perhaps you were pressed for money and had to take an extra shift. Or maybe you needed to meet a friend’s crucial deadline. When it had to be done, you found a way. You rearranged your schedule, worked through the night, or found help you never knew you had. This surge of energy came from the sense that there was no second option. It was do or face the consequences. By tapping into a must-have mindset, you can bring that same power to bigger goals.
The mother on the mountain didn’t think, “I want my child back, but this climb is big.” She decided nothing else mattered. Once the idea took hold, the hazards stopped being reasons to quit and became steps to solve. That’s one way to handle large targets: see them not as if you merely desire them, but as though everything hinges on that result. It’s not about ignoring risks; it’s about refusing to let them outweigh your purpose.
This approach can help you spot your own patterns. Maybe you say you’re doing everything to achieve a dream, but in truth, you’re only scratching the surface. If it still feels optional, it’s simple to postpone the steps. If it becomes a must, you no longer accept easy excuses. You find childcare if you have tasks to complete, you decline distractions, or you study until you know your material inside out. These acts might look tough from the outside, but they become natural when the goal is essential.
It helps to note that this drive often grows from emotion, not just logic. Logic can list the pros and cons, yet emotion moves you into action. If you think about what happens if you fail, you might discover a deeper reason to keep going. Whether it’s a family’s well-being, a personal standard, or a vision for a better life, having a strong emotional tie locks in your must-have mission. That emotional link can fuel you when tasks feel uphill and time is short.
Obstacles don’t vanish, but your view of them changes. Instead of seeing them as signs to stop, you see them as problems waiting to be fixed. That mindset shift lowers the dread of stepping beyond your comfort zone. You become more open to creative answers. The men in the tribe had the same path in front of them, yet only the mother saw a route she could take. She wasn’t weighed down by doubt. She pressed on until the job was done.
If you wonder how to apply this idea, look at your own goals. Ask whether they are just wishes. If they are, think about why you want them. Identify a reason strong enough to move from a distant want into a must. When you do, you may find the walls you faced before don’t seem as tall anymore. You might still sweat and push through rough spots, but you’ll handle them because, to you, there is no other option. Once your choice becomes a must, you unlock resources within yourself you never saw when it was just a wish. By training yourself to bring that level of dedication to what truly matters, you set the stage for real breakthroughs.

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